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| Adventure
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This has all the usual meanings, and on this site it usually has
the added meaning of "the kind of sex I'd like to have but my last partners
didn't give me." Usually it refers to trying new bedroom positions, trying
threesomes, doing it in exotic or forbidden places, etc. Again, it's a relative
term, so read the context clues before assuming you know what it means.
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| Anal
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Short for anal intercourse (penis in butt). That said, it's often
used to mean any kind of butt play (rimming, playing with butt plugs or
vibrators, etc.), in which case it's short for "anal play." You may possibly
come across these related abbreviations: A/S (anal service) and A/W (anal
worship), which are situationally defined.
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| Ass Play
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Though this is basically another term for "anal," it tends to be
used more often when the writer is referring to activities other than
penetration.
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| Auto-Eroticism
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Do-it-yourself sex. Masturbation.
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| BBW
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Acronym for Big, Beautiful Women.
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| BDSM
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This is an acronym for a conflation of paired terms, as follows:
Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. For
people seriously into these various pairs, the differences are important and
the debates heated. Briefly, Dominance and Submission (D/s) is more about
psychology, power exchange, and role playing. Sadist/Masochists consider
themselves sensualists -- it's all about needing those physical feelings, or
using them to get turned on. Bondage and discipline is just that, spankings to
mummifications, with or without the S/M or D/s (note the dominant upper case
"D" and the submissive lower case "s" -- the official affectation of D/s
pundits). But on AdultMatchClub, the preferred term is "kinky" -- which is
considerably more inexact.
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| Bi-curious
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A male or female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
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| Bi-sexual
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Attracted to members of both sexes.
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| Blow Job
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Mouth on penis action that results in ejaculation (thar she
blows!).
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| Bondage
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Use of any sort of restraint in sex play. Although bondage can get
elaborate with advanced sailor's knots, rope suspension and so forth, on this
site, people generally mean the lighter varieties -- maybe a silk scarf around
the wrists or a pair of handcuffs.
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| Butt Plug
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A plug or stopper inserted in the anus for added sensation during
sex play. Commercial butt plugs are flanged at the end (so they won't slip up
the chute) and made of safe materials. But homegrown ingenuity abounds, in
which case it's anyone's guess.
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| Butt play
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Though this is basically another term for "anal," it tends to be
used more often when the writer is referring to activities other than
penetration.
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| Circumcised
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The penis no longer has a foreskin. For example, a majority of
American males are circumcised as infants.
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| Closed swinging
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Couples are having sex in separate rooms on the same premises
(usually a party in a large home).
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| Cross-dressing
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A member of one sex dresses as a member of the opposite sex. Drag
queens and drag kings, for example. It would include the practices of
transvestites who practice the behavior specifically for sexual arousal.
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| Cunnilingus
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mouth action to female genitals, oral sex; that is, licking,
lapping, sucking, slurping any of the larger genital parts
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| D & D Free
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Drug and disease free. (Everyone claims to be it and to want it,
so it cancels itself out as a useful term.)
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| Dildo
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Commercially, it's a latex, silicone, rubber, plastic, glass, etc.
object, usually (but not necessarily) resembling a penis, used for insertion in
sexual play. Non-commercially, there are vegetables, household wares, and
whatever else the human imagination can conjure up.
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| Discreet
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(not discrete) Usually used as "discreet encounter." Respecting
the privacy or maintaining the secrets of another or not attracting a lot of
attention. It sounds more responsible than "let's keep it a secret." In many
cases, the person using the term "looking for discreet relationship" is married
or has a serious relationship going on, and by discreet, they mean, don't call
the house and say, "This is so-and-so's lover is s/he there -- I could use some
phone sex." Other times, there are children or parents involved and the person
doesn't want the relationship paraded in front of them. In some cases it simply
means the person wants to keep it low profile -- don't plan on showing up at
your lover's office with a picnic lunch and a vibrator. In short, since it can
mean a laundry list of things -- you're best to clarify.
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| Doggie Style
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A man-from-behind sexual position in which the woman is on all
fours -- the way doggies do it.
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| Dominant
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(Also dom, domme, domina and dominatrix -- the last three are
female only). The person who wants to be the controlling partner or aggressor
in sexual relations. (It can also be used as a descriptor: "I am dominant in
the bedroom.") If the person has mentioned a D/s relationship or says they like
it "kinky," it can mean playing the role of "Master" or Mistress" to the
partner's "slave" or "servant." If someone says point blank, "I'm a dom (or
domme)," they mean this type of role play, added, most likely, to elements like
bondage, pain, and other goodies. Again, clarify.
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| DP
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Double penetration - A penis in two holes. In a three-way, having
anal and vaginal penetration at the same time -- one up the chute and one in
the hole.
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| D/s
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Dominance/submission play. One person takes the controlling role
in sexual activity, the other person takes the passive or obedient role. This
"play" has varying degrees of intensity. In frequency it can range from once in
a while to 24/7, and in intensity it can range from giving a few orders or
deciding who takes what sexual position to inflicting severe pain. Always
clarify what the person using the term is thinking.
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| Eating
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Basically a term used for cunnilingus.
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| Exhibitionist
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A person who is aroused by being watched, either naked, or
masturbating, or having sex, etc.
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| Fetishes
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Things other than erotic zones of the body that turn an individual
on. Examples are rubber, leather, latex, fat, toes, boots, high-heels, corsets,
nylons, you name it. That said, this narrow definition has come to incorporate
BDSM, because people associated with BDSM practices often had a "fetish" for
leather (whips, belts, straps, chaps, leather gloves, etc.). So a person who's
into whipping might call that practice a fetish.
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| Feminization
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"Forcing" a man to dress as a woman, wear nylons, silk undies,
etc. Usually it's his fantasy as well as his partner's. Less often it simply
means transvestitism.
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| Fellatio
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Mouth on penis oral sex, not a term you'll find often on the site;
male profiles often express this as "receiving oral."
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| Fingering
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Most often this is a finger applied to the clitoris, but it can be
any variety of finger-in-hole actions as well, including anal fingering.
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| Fisting
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A hand is inserted into the anus or vagina, usually one finger at
a time. Getting the knuckle spread (the widest point of the hand) through the
opening is usually the most difficult part of the process; after this point you
are well and truly "fisting." The process takes a lot of lubrication. It also
takes patience on the part of the dominant, and openness and relaxation on the
part of the submissive.
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| Foreskin
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Also, prepuce. A fold of skin that covers the head of the penis
often surgically removed by circumcision.
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| French (also French Culture)
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Mouth on/in genitals sex. Cunnilingus and fellatio.
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| Friends With Benefits
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Generally an open relationship based on genuine affection and
trust that guarantees everybody gets laid without making a romantic commitment.
Someone you can hang out with and have sex with, but don't really plan on ever
living with. Also goes by Fuck Buddies, Friends with Perks, etc.
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| "Friends First” Swingers:
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People who prefer to get to know someone before having sex. This
may mean socializing at clubs, exchanging email and chatting online, or going
out on a few dates (dinner, movies, sports events, etc.--same as traditional
dating) first. These couples may also wish to maintain non-sexual friendships
as well--not all get-togethers have to involve sex for them.
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| Fun
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On this site "fun," as in "looking for fun," tends to mean "sex,"
or "primarily sex."
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| Generous
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Often this term takes with it the connotation that money will be
exchanged for sex, so be forewarned.
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| Greek (also Greek Culture)
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Any action that involves anal penetration by penis. More commonly
applied to male homosexuality.
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| GSOH
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Acronym for Good sense of humor.
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| Hand job
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Man gets orgasm when he or his mate strokes his peter by hand.
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| Hard core swingers
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Couple who live, eat, sleep swinging; also swingers who engage in
hard core swinging (below).
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| Hard core swinging
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A swinger gathering or meeting is hard core when sex is expected.
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| Hard swinging
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Swinging where there is sexual partner switching, "hard swinging"
is synonymous with swapping.
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| Head
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As in "giving/getting head," is mouth on penis stimulation,
fellatio.
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| Hedonism
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From an involved Greek philosophy and way of life, it is basically
the belief that the greatest good in life is to seek physical pleasure.
Pleasure seeking. It can be a way of life. The Hedonism resort chain obviously
co-opted this concept. They are quite opulent and favorite destinations of
swingers, nudists, and fetishists.
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| Hung
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Same as well-hung. Man with a large penis. Bull-dick.
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| Introitus
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Latinate term for the vaginal opening. If you see this term on
AdultMatchClub, you're probably reading the profile of a doctor.
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| IRL
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Acronym for In Real Life, usually in ads or discussions where
fantasy play is discussed, to differentiate the play from the daily grind.
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| ISO
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Acronym for "in search of."
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| Jacuzzi
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Brand name hot tub set-up with jets of water constantly
circulating into the tub -- these jets are often used for masturbating and have
great foreplay value, so the mention of "Jacuzzi" is less about the brand name
and more about the sexual image. Very popular with the swinger crowd.
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| Johnson
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One of the many nice little names for the penis.
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| Juicy
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A great way to suggest horniness without saying it. For example,
"looking for a juicy lady" means "Ladies, please be hot to trot."
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| Kitten
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If you see this in a profile, it may mean the person being
described is some or all of the following: "fluffy," flirtatious, petite, sexy,
delicate, submissive. Again, keep reading to find out which apply. The term is
also used sometimes for "pussy."
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| Kinky
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The narrowest definition refers to incorporating fetishes into sex
play. You may find balloons give you a woody (balloon fetish), and so you (or
your partner) rub your penis with a balloon to get you off. Broader definition
includes BDSM. You like to be tied to the bed; your partner likes to be
whipped; you like to worship your partner's armpits, etc. However, on the site
you will even broader definitions -- in fact it can merely mean "looking for
sex that's more adventurous than what I'm used to. For example, if she's only
had missionary sex with her husband for the past 20 years, she might think
doing it doggie style is "kinky" -- or doing it outdoors, or doing it with
three people. Many people think anal sex is "kinky." In fact, many people think
that anything that causes you to wrinkle your nose and go "eeuwww!" is kinky.
Best to inquire about this one.
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| Kundalini
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Sexual energy. The term is used in the context of Tantra and most
people using this word will be referring to a whole way of thinking about sex
that involves meditation and breathing exercises.
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| LOL
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Computerese acronym for Laugh Out Loud. You'll also see a lot of
this :)
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| Lover
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Sexual partner, but often meaning that the person using the word
expects more than sex (such as companionship, LTR, etc.).
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| LTR
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Acronym for long-term relationship.
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| Master (or Mistress)
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A person who assumes the "play" role of Master/Mistress while the
partner "plays" slave or servant. This "play" can be a once-in-a-while thing
used to spice up sexual play or it can be sustained over a 24/7 schedule. It
can be as mild as giving a few orders or deciding who takes what sexual
position or as heavy as inflicting severe pain. Do inquire.
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| Matroom
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A room set up for group sex. Also known as a group room.
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| Meet for pleasure
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This expression means, in swinging, that the encounter is not
about friendship, but sex only.
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| Menage a trois
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From the French, this means three people set up a household. It
includes sexual relations of course. So it really refers to a live-in
situation, but it has been generalized quite a bit. On the site, it can often
mean any "encounter" in which three people have sex.
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| M.O.S.
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Members of the Opposite Sex.
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| Muff (muff diving)
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Well, "muff" is appropriately descriptive of the bush as located
on the venus mound, that is, female bush. "Muff-diving" is also fairly accurate
in description if you consider that you have to dive through the muff to get to
the meat-- which is what muff diving really is: cunnilingus.
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| Mutual pleasuring
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In the most general sense it means, "We both come." But it often
means "you do to me whatever I do to you" -- an important distinction that can
grow into a nasty nettle patch if you don't clarify it early on.
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| Mutual Masturbation
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"Masturbate" primarily means manual stimulation of one's own
genitals, but a secondary meaning is to manually pleasure someone else. "Mutual
masturbation" usually means, you masturbate me, I masturbate you. But
technically it can and often does mean each of us masturbates him or herself,
but we're in the same room watching each other. On the site the term can mean
almost any combination of you-do-me-do-you-watch-me-watch.
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| Naturists
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An actual national organization of nudists, these are nudists with
a philosophy, so it includes nature, going back to nature, and a lot of outdoor
activities.
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| Nudists
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People who like to be nude and do it as often as possible. They
often remain nude in their homes, get together with other nudists for events,
or have special places like camps or beaches where they can congregate (in the
nude, of course).
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| O (the big O)
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"O" is for orgasm. "Big O" is big orgasm.
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| ON-PREMISE Clubs
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On premise clubs allow for meeting, socializing, and swinging to
happen all in the same location.
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| OFF-PREMISE Clubs:
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Off premise clubs are strictly for meeting & socializing. Many
times called a meet and greet. It could be an off-premise swing club, cocktail
lounge, bar, or home where you go specifically to meet other swingers. Swinging
will be elsewhere with the interested couples and singles responsible for the
arrangements. The arrangements could include who is to be invited, the
location, date and time.
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| Open swinging
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Two, plus couples have sex in the same room -- but not necessarily
with each other.
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| Oral
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Oral sex (see below).
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| Oral Sex
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Cunnilingus and fellatio, any variety of mouth to genitals action,
irregardless of climax. In other words, for you legalists, it can be called
"sex" even if there's no orgasm. Less frequently called "oral service," which
may suggest a D/s context.
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| Orgy
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Group sex, lots of people, lots of parts in lots of holes and no
wallflowers allowed.
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| Play
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Any kind of fun stuff you do as part of arousal, foreplay, or sex.
Sex play, bedroom play, kinky play, etc.
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| Polyamory
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Sexual relationships with more than one partner. Usually refers to
emotional attachment and various agreements between the partners.
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| Positions
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The sexual positions, for example man-on-top, woman-on-top,
man-from-behind, woman from behind (with strap-on), and so forth. People
usually mention positions in conjunction with "adventure" or as part of wanting
to "try something new."
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| Pussy
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Female genitalia
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| Pussy Licker
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One who performs acts of oral sex on a female. See also
"Cunnilingus," "Eating," "French, "Muff Diving," "Oral Sex."
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| Quickie
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Quick sex, usually involving orgasm, often on the run or in a
public or unsanctioned place.
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| Rear Entry
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A position for intercourse: guy enters woman from behind (or woman
sits back on lying down man).
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| Receiving
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Being the passive partner, having any sexual act done to you. On
AdultMatchClub it's often used in this context: "I like oral sex, giving as well as
receiving." This means, "You suck me, I'll suck you."
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| Reciprocate
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This is a more sophisticated way of saying "do me like I do you,"
but it works for non-sexual contexts as opposed to "giving and receiving." It
can refer to something as nebulous as "have exactly the same degree of passion
I have." In this case, better investigate further.
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| Rimming
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Analingus. Tongue goes anus diving.
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| Recreational Swinging
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No-strings swinging -- swinging without attachments, friendships,
relationships, emotional connections, etc.
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| Role Play
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Sex games people play whereby each partner plays a certain fantasy
"role," like school boy and school mistress, baby and daddy, whore and john.
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| Roman (Roman Style, Roman Culture)
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Sex by orgy.
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| Sadomasochism
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The giving (sado) and receiving (masoch) of pain in sexual play or
for sexual arousal -- or for just plain fun.
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| Same Room Swingers:
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These are couples who prefer to swing together in the same room or
at least have their partner present during their encounter.
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| Separate Room Swingers:
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The opposite of above--couples who are more comfortable NOT having
their partners present during an encounter.
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| Shaving
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Usually refers to shaving pubic hair, but can refer to shaving any
or all other places hair grows on the body. The user will usually specify. If a
woman says "shaved" she's most definitely referring to pubic hair. A man may
qualify with "completely shaved" and then he would probably be referring to at
least chest and pubes, possibly pits and legs, not necessarily beard or head
hair.
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| Social
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In a swinger context you meet and greet, but don't have sex.
Essentially a chance to meet other couples for future sexual encounters.
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| Soft porn
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Cross an X rated movie without the plot with a XXX-rated movie
without the in-your-face action. In short, all the packaging with none of the
content.
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| Soft Swingers:
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This definition can vary from couple to couple so be sure to
clarify with the individuals in question, but this frequently means couples
that will have sex with their own partners in the same room at the same time
while another couple is having sex, but not actually exchange partners at any
time. For others, it can simply mean no penetration. Be sure to check with the
couple on their personal definition.
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| Soft swinging
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Couples get together and engage in sexual activity together, but
they only have sex with their own partners -- no partner swapping. But a lot of
watching does go on -- and possibly some touching -- a touchy matter best
negotiated in advance. The hard line for soft swinging is no intercourse
between non-mates. A wider definition says that any time a couple brings in a
third party, they are swinging (threesomes). But in this case the third party
would only watch or be watched.
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| STDs
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Acronym for Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Also STIs (where "I" is
illnesses, more often seen in UK).
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| Straight
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Guys often write this in a profile to discourage other guys from
contacting them (also STR or STR8).
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| Strap-on
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A penis-shaped dildo with a flanged base, latex or something
similar, that is run through a hole in a harness. The penis end allows a woman
to penetrate and copulate like a man while the flange, pressed against her
body, can stimulate her clit. She can ride the man from behind, engage in sex
with another woman, and engage in other manly pursuits.
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| Submissive
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A person who likes to take the passive role in sex or lets the
partner give the orders and call the shots (also used as a descriptor). In the
context of D/s play, the role takes on more requirements as negotiated by the
partners.
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| Swapping
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This is swinging where two (or more) couples get together and
exchange partners to have sex.
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| Swedish
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Sexual play that involves massage or a lot of touching.
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| Swinging
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Refers to couples "playing" with other couples or with singles. It
doesn't really qualify the degree of play. It tends to mean there is some sort
of sex involved. In any case, the term doesn't really give you any clues as to
who does what with whom. For some clue, they have invented the terms "hard
swinging" and "soft swinging" and otherwise, you read between the lines.
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| Tantra
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Well that's a big one. Tantra is a spiritual practice that
revolves around the sexual union. It works with sexual intimacy, body
awareness, breathing practices, sensitivity practice, a whole lot of other
things all conceptually driven by concepts such as two-becoming-one, bringing
unity out of polarity, uniting spiritual energy with physical energy... After
that, read a book, watch a video, or get a teacher. Because on Adult
FriendFinder, not everyone who uses the term walks that actual walk. Some
people use the term to mean they are slow, serious sexual connoisseurs as
opposed to the "quickie" types. It also tends to suggest they want a more
long-term arrangement, more emotional commitment rather than the
one-nighter/no-strings thing. But it's a wild card, so if someone uses the term
with you, it's best to inquire.
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| Threesome
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A couple and a third party engage in some form of sexual activity.
But it can be used to refer to any three people in a sexual encounter. Every
situation is different, so it's important to clarify parameters.
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| TICKET
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A person, usually a woman, brought to a swinging party solely to
enable a man to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing
or is not free to swing. This is a very negative thing in the swinging world.
Please be honest and upfront at all times.
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| Tonguing
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Most often refers to use of the tongue in cunnilingus. Although if
used in conjunction with a body part, it simply means applying tongue action to
said body part.
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| Toys
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In an AdultMatchClub context, leave your kids out of this one. These
would be sex toys, any implement used in sex play. It tends to mean things like
dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, and so forth, can include kinky toys like
handcuffs and blindfolds, but really, after that it could be anything up to and
including the kitchen sink, especially if you have someone creative on your
hands.
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| Transgender
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The larger category of people who wish to be or believe they're
meant to be a member of the opposite sex, plus people who've made the change,
and people who exhibit cross-gendered behavior, such as cross-dressers.
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| Transsexual (TS, TG, transgender)
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An individual who identifies with a gender other than their own
"assigned" or birth gender. These individuals often choose to alter their body
(through surgery and gender reassignment therapy) in order to more accurately
reflect their personal orientation/identification.
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| Triad
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A three-way, ongoing relationship of mixed sexes, as opposed to a
"threesome" which is usually a one-nighter just for sex.
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| Troilism
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A sophisticated way of saying "threesomes" -- traditionally this
term refers to threesomes as a perversion.
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| Tung-hsuan
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This guy wrote a book hundreds of years ago that took all the fun
out of sex by tying it to numerology and making you count everything.
And-one-and-two-and-three-and-four. Unless you have a Mathematics fetish, if
someone on AdultMatchClub suggests this approach to you, run.
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| Transvestism (transvestitism), TV
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Someone who advertises as a TV is a transvestite (transvestism is
the practice). This means the person gets sexually aroused by dressing in the
clothing of the opposite sex, men who love to wear women's underwear, for
example.
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| Uncut
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Refers to the penis when it still has its foreskin.
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| Utopian Swinging
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Swinging as a life style, complete with philosophy, which is
humanistic in nature.
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| Vibrators
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A sex toy that vibrates, usually battery operated. They can be
used topically for body sensitizing or clitoral, penile or testicular
stimulation. They can be used by insertion for either vaginal or anal
stimulation. And then there's creativity. Anything goes.
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| Voyeurism
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For those who like to watch. Broadly speaking, it refers to being
sexually aroused simply by watching other people engage in sexual activity. As
used on the site it can mean the person is not willing to engage physically, or
it can mean that if you don't want physical contact, he/she is willing to go
along. Examples: a married lady will offer to watch or be watched and consider
that within the realm of her marital fidelity. Or, a man will join a couple as
a voyeur -- look but don't touch.
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| Wank
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UK expression for jerk-off, jack-off, slap the monkey, etc. The
person who does this is called a wanker, often used pejoratively.
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| Watersports
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Also known as Urolognia. Usually refers to pee play, but broader
definitions can include things like enemas.
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| Woman-on-top
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A coital position whereby the woman is literally on top of the
man. Many men prefer their women on top, and this suggests nothing else about
their lovemaking style or personality.
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| XXX
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Hard porn. You get to see all the machinery up close doing its
thing.
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| Yoni
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Vagina. This term has Eastern sexual practices written all over it. It also
refers to the female principle. Someone using the term might be into or
well-read in Tantric sex.
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